We are not permanent;We're Temporary, TemporarySame old story -Foo Fighters, "The Pretender" I made a major life change in August of 2019. I moved to Indiana, from my home state of Tennessee, to support my boyfriend, as he finished his engineering degree at Purdue University.
I thought by my age that I would be successful, financially stable, and working a fulfilling job in a career I loved. I dreamed of this as a child and teenager because that's what adults do - they become successful and financially stable.
I had a bad day recently. Not just any bad day. A bad day caused by massive insomnia from the night before. When I'm sleep deprived, I'm irritable, prone to depressed moods, hard to reason with, and incompetent. I felt a duty to certain personal goals and chores for the day, yet I was unable to do them.
I started an initiative for myself-an unplug initiative, if you will- to use social media and my smartphone less. The reasons were numerous and the effects were concerning: shorter attention span, need for instant gratification, using my phone to distract myself from my real feelings, spending far too much time scrolling endlessly, sad or pissed off at the end of the day anyway.
In my ever-evolving journey to be a new and self-improved me, I've pondered many existential questions, like, "what the heck are we all doing here?" I decided that the gravitas of such a question was beyond my capabilities, so I personalized it into: "what the heck am I doing here?"
If you're involved in any mental health or inspirational community online, you've likely seen the term self-care. We all probably have an idea of what it is. After all, it doesn't take a Ph.D to deduce that the words self and care probably have something to do with taking care of yourself.
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My struggle with Borderline Personality Disorder and anxiety have felt lifelong at this point. The past decade of my life has felt like twice that because of how the symptoms have affected me. I've searched for any way to help mitigate these effects- DBT self-taught exercises, therapy (in person and online), journaling, self-esteem, self-compassion, trauma healing, and finally, physical health changes.
I've never been a gym person. I feel like it's the equivalent of being on display, like an animal at the zoo. But people pay admission to see the animals at the zoo and marvel at their greatness. I pay money to go feel self-conscious and awkward.
This piece was contributed by Jessica Mathis at The Unplug Initiative. Please take a moment to check out her blog! She's an incredible writer with amazing tips on self improvement, living with mental illness and creating a better life! I love her content and I'm sure you will too!
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