Assorted Articles and Blogs
I'm a health educator and writer. My book, "Good Sexual Citizenship: How to Create a (Sexually) Safer World" will be out Sept. 2019 from Cleis Press. My writing has appeared in the Washington Post, the HuffPost, Rewire News, and everydayfeminism.com. Back in the day I ran About.com's LGBT Teens site and was the sex ed expert for gURL.com. These days, I answer sex and relationship questions on the Okayso app. Much of my writing is related to health and sexuality (both of the adolescent and the adult variety), and some of it covers my experiences parenting. Contact me at [email protected]
Assorted Articles and Blogs
March 14 Recently, I attended my 12-year-old daughter's instrumental concert. The group sounded lovely, and you could tell how much work the kids had put into their performance. My daughter has been playing viola for five years. She has an ensemble class twice a week in school and takes weekly private lessons.
November 12 at 9:00 AM In 1985, my family's synagogue in Vancouver, B.C., was firebombed and burned to the ground. Public figures, including the mayor, expressed shock that such a brutal act of anti-Semitism could occur in a city that, even 30 years ago, prided itself on multiculturalism.
Growing up, my mother loved to tell stories of her father, a family doctor who had died while she was in high school. I heard about things like his dramatic wartime escapades, his subsequent three-pack-a-day habit, and his practice of exchanging medical services for the art of dubious quality that decorated my childhood home.
A few years ago, I unexpectedly found myself raising two kids on one income. In my case, the situation was the result of my partner's sudden death, so the change was utterly unexpected. The loss was devastating. But even during that difficult time, I knew that I was fortunate, since I had a steady job.
At the end of 2012, my partner died suddenly. He was 40, I was 37, and our two kids were only 3 and 6. His death from a rare heart condition was a devastating shock. But so was the matter of closing out his estate, something I assumed we were decades away from having to address.
Articles on teen sexuality and sexual health and how our current approaches aren't really doing the trick.
If you feel like anti-abortion bills are being passed by Republican lawmakers at every turn, you wouldn't be wrong. Recently, lawmakers in at least have proposed near-total abortion bans, and four governors have signed such bans into law.
Earlier this year, voters in Ontario, Canada, elected the right-wing Progressive Conservative Party into power, making controversial populist Doug Ford the province's premier. Ford ran on a platform promising to overturn Ontario's sex education curriculum, which had been implemented in 2015 by the previous Liberal government.
Pregnancy exclusion clauses have been making their way into legislation on states' advance directives since the 1990s. These laws override any advance directive about end-of-life medical care that a person may have in the case that they are determined to be pregnant.
I have been teaching sex ed for nearly 15 years, and keeping pace with an ever-changing world has meant regularly adjusting the topics I cover in class. But this year, I realized a lesson that I had stopped using not too long ago had once again become sadly relevant.
Check out some of my favorites, to the right and below.
by Ellen Friedrichs If you grew up in the United States, it is almost inevitable that you've been subject to a few standard aphorisms. These include things like: "Anyone can make it here if they try hard enough," "Nothing worth having comes easy, " "Hard work pays off, " "Winne rs never quit, and quitters never win," and "Success is no accident."
One day, when I was about twelve, my younger cousin Sasha and I were dancing in our grandmother's living room as my mom and a few other adults chatted in the kitchen a few feet away. At one point, Rod Stewart's old song "Da Ya Think I'm Sexy?" came on the radio.
News flash: Women have body hair. Armpits, legs, genitals - even faces. And it's become a widely accepted rule that they must remove this hair. Some women choose to do this freely, and some women choose to defy this standard. But the stigma runs even deeper than that.
The first time I formally learned about was in grad school. I was training as a peer sexuality educator, and we did an exercise where we had to decide which activities needed to be discussed with a partner: "Do you need consent to hug someone?" the facilitator asked. "To hold hands?
Recently, I was gossiping with my neighbor about a mutual friend whose wife had moved out, making him the primary parent to their two- and four-year-old children. "He's been pretty amazing," I said. "She even took the car, so he brings the kids to daycare on the bus.
A number of personal essays I have written on raising my kids following the sudden death of my partner.
Here I've written about parenting, money, feminism, and estate planning.
Here are some additional articles for DailyWorth on a few more topics.
Talking to your LGBTQ+ kids about sexuality can seem daunting. These 5 tips will help you have these important conversations.
This month marks the fiftieth anniversary of the approval of oral contraception in the US, and the Pill's age is starting to show. Problems abound with its delivery, dosage and side effects. Ellen Friedrichs investigates how researchers have conceived of new ways to deliver birth control.
The bone marrow disease called CAMT is extremely rare among the general population. It may have long gone undiagnosed, especially among Ashkenazi Jews.
Numerous articles on some of my favorite themes.
Posts on all manner of teen sexuality and relationships.
My blog on reproductive rights, sex education, voting, teen pregnancy and more for Alternet.
Here are some articles on my early parenting experiences
Here is where I ran the LGBT+ teens site for many years and covered current events, pop culture, health, sexuality and more!
Presentation at the National Sex Ed Conference.
Recommendations for what to say to your middle schooler, what you can stop worrying about, and how you can make this communication as healthy, informative, and comfortable as possible.
Check out my comments on how to talk to kids about sex.
Here I help Seventeen break down what you really need to know about penises.
In case your sex ed class skipped a lesson on masturbation I help Seventeen make sure you are covered.
Check out my comments for Teen Vogue on herpes, how to tell if you have it, and what you need to know if the answer is you do
Check out my comments on sex ed in this great article.